Last summer, my boyfriend moved to New York City from Pittsburgh, Pa. I live in Pittsburgh. I have learned that long distance relationships are hard on you and your relationships. You are trying to live your life in your home town and a relationship on the road.
Most adults enter into a relationship because they want someone to live a life with them. I am no different. However, it is difficult to share your life with someone who is not there. Sometimes you ask yourself “What’s the matter?”
Eventually, many long-distance relationships are crushed by pressure because it takes too much away from people. Long distance relationships are not built on trust because they are built on work, and most people do not want to work that hard. Busy people have busy lives. They get tired, they get lazy, they resort to each other. They make assumptions about what their partner should know or understand. They fail to appreciate that absence is a fertile ground for disappointment.
Successful long-distance relationships include people who ensure that their presence is felt even in their absence. When they fail to do so, emotional distance is created, which is more difficult to overcome than physical distance.
You become lonely. You want someone to do this and that person is unavailable. You get distracted. You get frustrated. You have something to share with your partner and you cannot reach them. you tired. You are packing and traveling so much that you get tired of the effort.
However, anyone who is in a long distance relationship knows that the real trouble starts when you start thinking that the effort is too much right now.