You must be feeling insane because you love a intoxicated person and are afraid to leave an abusive relationship. The more you know about codependency and narcissistic personality disorder, the easier it will be to help you quit. Abusive parochialists need someone who is willing to fulfill their needs and give up on their desires. Narcissists are self-destructive people who have low self-esteem and lack of attention. They parasitically join a supportive, supportive person who survives center stage and fails to care for others.
Expecting something from an abusive parochialist who has nothing to give can make a codepend mad. An attempt is being made to pretend that the person is intoxicated or that he cannot drive you wild. Many coders have spent years interacting with reality in relation to particular people from their past and present. Codependents for years try to get someone to love them (ie, mom / dad) in a certain way when that person may or may not.
The development of codependence has its roots in misplaced family systems and lasts for a long time. Extremely rigid, dogma, or authoritarian types of families where alcohol abuse may or may not occur or dependency produce codependency. These families emphasize discipline and control where rewards are awarded for complying with strict and often irrational rules. Children learn that any positive feeling about themselves is dependent on someone else’s mood. These families may be perfect for neighbors, but there is a lot of pain and privacy behind closed doors. Children learn early to not express their thoughts or feelings and to ignore family behavioral problems. This family survival response effectively increases a child’s tolerance for emotionally abusive and inappropriate behavior in others.
As adults, these children have a greater tendency to engage in abusive traumatic relationships with people who are unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy. Depressed to their feelings, these adult children are indirect about their needs, denial of feelings and mistrust. They begin with the belief that love is sacrificing for my partner and never wanting my partner out. It is a set to build an abusive relationship that is more important than yourself. Typically, codependents consistently feel incomplete in relationships and are people who are deeply implicated with abusive intoxication.
If you are a codependent in a relationship with an abusive narcissist and are asking yourself, “Why do I feel mad at you?” It is time to go to the intoxicant. It’s time to let him off the hook. Like his stewards, the abusive parochialist is constitutionally unable to love you. This does not mean that you can no longer love that person. It means that you are ready to feel the immense relief that comes when you stop denying reality and start accepting. You leave the abusive addict whether he really is or not. You stop trying to make that person who he is or not. You deal with your feelings and walk away with destructive attachment. You stop stating that what you are not getting from abusive drugs controls you and you take responsibility for your life. Then you begin the process of loving and caring for yourself.
Anger, feel hurt, and land in place of self-forgiveness. Your life will end in purity. You will no longer be a victim of abuse. You will recognize that you have been treated unfairly and have allowed yourself to be treated unfairly. You will no longer create the conditions you are looking for, or make you a victim. You stand in your power and no longer live in quiet desperation.
Thank you for reading this article. I have dedicated the importance of non-violence and self-love by teaching my personal and professional life from my own experience. As a result, I have learned a lot about relationship abuse and what it takes to end self-judgment. And, as I learn and grow, I teach self-pity and recommend that I use myself, in the hope that it helps you improve your life.