In local dailies, there is a popular section where people usually seek advice on relationships or matters of the heart and should be read by many couples. I usually read it as what really happens behind closed doors of many relationships and I think marriage as an institution should be accepted. Recently there was a woman, who told her age was 21, the story of which attracted my attention in writing this article, she was mourning about a situation that was unfaithful to her and what to do , Was seeking advice on this. He fell in love with a married man, who was also his boss, and at first he felt it to be lust but as the days passed he began to fall in love. Now the question was that his love interest had shifted to another work center, which meant that more responsibilities and less time were spent together but he always finds time for her whenever he is around. The prolonged absence as a result of her busy schedule was affecting her job performance and other social-related activities as she promised within a year to settle with her. Now she was confused about the relationship and began to doubt if it was tenable.
The first thing that came to my mind after reading was: –
Is it possible that she was confusing Luv with disillusionment?
· Blaming her reasoning and oblivious to the fact that such a relationship will never end.
What is the first fascination? The Oxford Dictionary described it as having very strong feelings or attraction to a person or something, especially when these are inappropriate and do not last long, while there are many definitions of love, the best for this situation Have a strong sense of affection for someone you are sexually attracted to.
So from the above definitions is it likely that the woman is infamous with the male? Or is it just pure love in the making, and maybe she just wants to have a family with her. Love advocates please review the above situation, and compare your version to Love or my definition above. Does she really get on the threshold for summoning that love after your careful review, personally my compass is pointing towards disenchantment, but perhaps I narrow it down to preconceived notions developed by society in situations like this Im impressed to see it in perspective.
As a realist, I am forced to say that she is afflicted and defends her position with the following reasons and facts. First, he is beginning to have doubts and is confused about the relationship with the entire system. Secondly, the strong feelings towards her due to her absence and busy schedule make her unproductive even when she is empty, despite the person working. Third, outrageously expecting the boy to leave his family and make a fresh start with him within a year. Fourth, she is being unreasonable by seeking to spend more time with a boy who knows that he is married and due to his busy schedule.
In fairness, the woman is still young and probably lacks experience in sensible true love and fascination. Because of his strong feelings for her, he is blurred into seeing signs telling a clear story of a ruined relationship and hopes to be extinguished by reality soon on a fickle hope. This may be a harsh lesson for him in the end but he will gain an invaluable life experience in preparation for the difficult road ahead.
Most of us have wandered off at some point in our lives and convinced us that we are truly in love, but our emotions are blurred due to strong feelings and we often have cold truths about such relationships. Ignore We like to see relationships in the same perspective that fit our dimension and distract anyone from our thinking so that we can develop unreasonable demands from other people with the hope of maintaining such relationships .
The infection is like a fad as doubts begin to creep in as time passes, our logic begins to become clearer and stronger attraction slowly sinks into reality, and automatically we are inclined to move on to the next best thing Occur.
Even though it may be difficult to separate love from disenchantment at first, we must try as much as possible to lead at our level and look at any relationship with a different perspective to see its viability. Take time out and see if they can develop strong feelings or attraction to Love, investigating the circumstances that led to her finally asking herself if he was making you inappropriate.
In the end you will know whether it is true love or fascination.