The key to a great relationship is emotional transparency. These feelings that are not commonly expressed can be as deep as fear, sadness and longing.
Intimacy is about revealing yourself to your partner. For me I see what intimacy is.
One should learn not to blame his partner for his emotional reactions. Also it is important to take personal responsibility for your feelings. If you live with an abusive man you can always leave him or herself instead of blaming you for your situation.
One of the best ways to communicate without blame mode is, “When you did that I felt sad from inside. Generally, men needed to communicate more about fear, sadness, and longing.” Whereas women are required to speak about anger.
Moments of emotional transparency can completely change a relationship for the better. Most of us need some encouragement to be more open. This is because we do not want our partner to react. We depend on our partner for our positive expressions. We take it easy and do not express what we are really feeling.
When we hide big secrets from our lover, it uses a lot of energy. The art of telling our feelings to our partner releases the energy that is previously tied up in efforts to hide those feelings.
Is it so hard to say that I feel sad or I feel sad? Most of us have not been taught the importance of emotional transparency. Many of us dismiss our feelings and stay away from negative thoughts like anger.
However, if you resist feeling the negative feelings that you are training yourself, do not fully feel feelings like bliss and bliss.
If you feel completely negative feelings then they pass in 5 to 10 seconds. If you resist feeling these relationships then they accumulate at some stage in your body.
I suggest that you do not express your anger physically to your partner. If you get angry, the best thing to say is “I’m getting angry” and “I need some space”. Leave the room and walk, dance or hit the bed to fully express anger in a safe manner. When you are not triggered anymore, go back and communicate with your partner.
The best question to ask is “Have I spoken to anything important that I haven’t spoken to my partner about?”
It takes courage to be emotionally transparent in your relationship. If your partner reacts, then being able to calm yourself is the real skill of a mature adult. I like to think the saying, don’t take things personally.
Try to capture your mind when you emotionally react to a situation beyond your control. If you see your reaction you can see it and notice that it will go away in a minute. If you take a deep breath and shake your body then it also helps in coping with emotions.